This has been difficult for me as well, but I try not to complain. I don't
want him to feel even worse. It does get pretty lonely at times.
We have found that manual stimulation is better than actual penetration and
we do occasionally have intimate times. They really keep both of us going
and since he has been feeling somewhat better, things are improving.
Keep hope alive...
Amy
At 11:44 AM 3/26/97 -0500, you wrote:
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>In a message dated 97-03-24 13:20:35 EST, Debbie wrote:
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>> hope you won't be too embarassed by myself, a female, responding to your
>> postings. But us women have feelings too-or lack thereof. It is very
>> frustrating to myself, and my husband, because there is nothing that he
>can
>> do for me to "reach the goal". Without turning "x-rated", has anybody
>come
>> up with a solution, other than "it's okay to just cuddle"?
>>
>> Debbie
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>
><<Debbie,
> It was a good while after my TM attack before I felt I could resume
>sexual relations or even had the desire to try. When we did, I was very
>dismayed to find that that area had also been affected by TM. I tried to
>concentrate on enjoying the preliminaries and being glad I could be there for
>my husband. It took some time to work up the nerve to ask my neurologist
>about it. He said it should improve over time (he said that about most
>everything those first few months.) Fortunately, it did, sometime within the
>first year or so. I would say sexual function and feeling is almost
>completely normal now. The biggest problem now is tiredness ( we get to bed
>mu
>ch too late) and sometimes when symptoms flare up I'm either preoccupied or,
>particularly with back pain, don't physically feel like it. My husband,
>thankfully, is a very kind, patient man.
> Hope this helps in some way. My advice: give it time, and as my husband
>said, "keep practising." :-)
> I imagine some have given it time with no improvement. That would be
>another question for the neurologist.
>
>Barbara>>
>
>Dear Debbie and Barbara,
>
>This was and is one of the most difficult effects of TM for me......and for
>my husband. From the beginning in '81, I was left with no internal feeling.
> Something very difficult to face in my early 30s.....and would no longer
>experience such a intimate part of the relationship with my husband.
>
>After emotionally accepting this, my husband and I are closer than ever!
>And I'd agree with your husband, Barbara.......keep practicing!!! ;-)
>
>Linda
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