Re: A question for the Gentlemen in our club.
Deborah Capen (dcapen(AT)ivic.net)
Mon, 24 Mar 1997 10:09:46 -0800
Gary wrote:
> SPEARMN(AT)aol.com wrote:
> >
> > I am curious if any one out there with a similiar recovery to mine
might have
> > some answers for me regarding sexual function.
> > I had my attack suddenly and within hours was completely paralyzed
below the
> > waist. My recovering was fairly quick. Within 5 weeks I had limited
walking
> > ability with two canes and now a year later, appear for all intents and
> > purposes to walk perfectly normally. My residual symptoms include
bladder
> > and bowel problems. My bladder occasionally cooperates and so I only
need to
> > cath once a day prior to bedtime. My bowels, as long as I keep the
natural
> > laxative people in business, seem to do whats necessary with some
effort on
> > my part.
> >
> > Here is the issue. I have been able to have erections to varying
degrees
> > even when I had a "foley" at the hospital. I have continued with these
and
> > yet my erections are not long lasting and can be considered softer than
in my
> > previous experience. I have been out of the hospital since last April
am
> > unable to complete sex with my wife and yet can achieve orgasm. I have
about
> > approx. 30 % feeling loss on the dorsal side of my body from the soles
of my
> > feet to the small of my back. This seems to include the "dorsal" half
of my
> > penis. I wonder if anyone has had any success with the new plethora of
drugs
> > on the market. I am hestitant to take anything that might affect my
> > condition. On the other hand if there is something simple I can do to
regain
> > something I have lost, possibly forever, than I would like to know
about it.
> >
> > I do not want to appear callous to those of you who have no sexual
function
> > at all. I am simply looking for info that may improve my own situation
from
> > others who may have a similar situation. Thanks for the help.
> >
> > Gary
Then Steve Wrote:
> Gary,
> I find myself in a similar situation. I feel very fortunate to have had
> a steady recovery following my 1/5/97 tm attack. I can walk a fair
> distance with my quad cane now after losing any ability to walk at all.
> My sensations are also reduced with the left half of my body from the
> sternum down being more numb. My bladder, bowell, and sexual function
> work but slower. While I can reach an orgasm it takes forever. There is
> no pleasure because I can not feel the sensation. I too would be
> interested in any info. Thanks.
> Steve
>
I hope you won't be too embarassed by myself, a female, responding to your
postings. But us women have feelings too-or lack thereof. It is very
frustrating to myself, and my husband, because there is nothing that he can
do for me to "reach the goal". Without turning "x-rated", has anybody come
up with a solution, other than "it's okay to just cuddle"?
Debbie
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