Welcome! I have also felt exactly as you expressed -- so glad to have
found people with similar experiences and an opportunity to ask questions and
share.
I don't have answers to the specific questions you raised, but wanted to
share with you the address for the archives of this list:
http://www.eskimo.com/~jlubin/disabled/tmic
This includes all of the messages that have been sent to this list and
can be searched by date, subject, or author.
Barbara