[TMIC] just visiting
Dgtizr2(AT)aol.com
Tue, 18 May 1999 23:29:21 EDT
Dearest Errol,
Thank you so much for the response. When I married at 18 yrs.old,
partially to get away from my mother, I have lived away from them for 27
years now. I have always found, with so little connection to my parents (and
no visible emotional support from them) that the friendships I make sustain
me thru all sorts of things.
With my first husband, I have a son, who is now 23, and getting married
in August. (to a very wonderful sweet girl who he met on the internet). I
started doing upholstery, at home, when my son was 5, because I had the kind
of husband who would lose his job and come home smirking that he was retired.
Then he would not look for another job. He was terribly abusive, so I could
not get a job outside of home, and stumbled across doing furniture (I am a
thrifty do-it-yourselfer). I have been doing upholstery ever since. Right
thru a second husband, 2 daughters, and the 2nd husband deciding that I was
going to support him. I am still doing furniture, but also now do
computerized embroidery, trying to phase out the upholstery, have joint
problems from injuries from the first husband, and from too many years of
doing furniture. I am with my third husband now.
I have the 3 children, son who is 23, daughter who is 13, and daughter
who is almost 10. So, I am a lot older than some of the other parents of the
children my girls' ages. Sometimes I feel like I am 93. But, with my first
husband, I was not going to live to be 30, so I don't usually mind feeling
like I am 93 once in a while.
I got interested in finding out about my mom's medical records, because
I have a spot in my spine, right between my shoulder blades, where I get bent
forward from there up, and cannot straighten all the way up. That spot
throbs, and makes me exhausted. I have been to my Dr., and to an ortho, 2
times in a years' time. Going back in the morning, to tell him just telling
me my disks are in better shape than his does not fix the problem, it really
hurts, every day, and I need something done to find out about it. It is
definitely not psychological. So, while I am running the embroidery machine,
when it gets too bad, I lay flat on my back, with my walkman headphones on,
listening to a book tape, and just lay there, and usually fall asleep.
Usually straightens out enough to get thru the rest of the day.
My ache is the same area where my mom is paralyzed, and her chiro told
her that she is paralyzed from a birth defect, which she probably passed on
to at least one of her children. Wonderful! So, after I had gone to my Dr.
again, he suggested getting my mom's medical records. I had no idea all
these years that she had TM, she always said she did not know. But now I
know, and I have found all you wonderful, caring people who are facing your
own mountains each day. I think you do a wonderful job!!!! Three cheers
for all of you! You are not just sitting in a chair saying "Why me?" ( At
least, not EVERY day!). I am amazed at all the information available, and
would love to go to the seminar in August, but am not financially able.
So, you will have to keep me posted. Keep on trying, all of you, you are all
worth the effort! Take care, and stop and give someone a smile, it will help
both of you!
With love, Norma, who just embroidered something for herself,
for once!