Re: [TMIC] Re: [[TMIC] race to the bathroom!]
Jo Ellen Finkelstein (ghellen(AT)ninenet.com)
Thu, 08 Apr 1999 23:53:29 -0500
Peter & Mandy Feka wrote:
>
> Hi Jeff,
>
> My name is Mandy, and I will be 33 in July. I have had TM for five
> years. I was glad to hear another person my age talking about bowel/bladder
> problems. It is hard when you are younger, a diaper in your bathing suit could
> be quite awkward ! That is not a joke. It's difficult because we are in the
> most social part of our lives, and do not feel accepted by our peers. In fact,
> we're not. I have wet myself, had bowel movements, both, in public, I realize
> that no one probably saw what just happened to me, but it is humiliating to be
> an adult and soil your clothes. I am always sure that someone can tell, just
> by the look on my face. I wear at least minimal protection at all times. I do
> not leave the house before I have bm in the mornings, if I have to, I wear a
> diaper. Which, to me , is humiliating. I realize that no one can see it, but I
> know it's there, and I feel different. I have learned that these are the
> things that I have to do, in order to take care of Mandy. It has been my
> experience that people that genuinely care about me don't get bothered or
> offended when I have an accident. They seem to understand how I must be
> feeling, and are usually very pleasant. The rest of the world, well, their a
> mixed crowd, and thay don't know me, so how could they possibly understand me.
> I have quit expecting understanding from the world, there is so much
> understanding in my life, I don't have to travel too far to find some. I am
> fortunate. I have friends and family that love and appreciate me for who I am,
> even if I do have poop in my pants in their car.
> The rest of the world doesn't know me, or love me, so they don't understand.
> And they are not going to. This is Mandy's to deal with, and I find it easier
> to deal with surrounded by my family and friends. I go out, but I go out with
> them, because with them, I know that it will not be an issue. WE REALLY DO
> HAVE TO PICK OUR FRIENDS VERY CAREFULLY, I HAVE SOME MAKE AN ASS OUT OF ME AND
> THEM BY JOKING ABOUT IT IN FRONT OF OTHERS. I prefer mature adult friends now,
> and the ones that can't handle it, well, their immaturity was their problem,
> and it still is. I HAVE to "move on to the next one". Thanks for bringing up
> the subject, I guess I had more to say than I thought, sorry if I rambled. I
> have no advice for you, I don't even have an answer, but I do have
> understanding, and if that can help, E-ME any time. Be Well, Mandy
> "Jeff C" <doubletrouble27(AT)hotmail.com> wrote:
> > Hello there! I've been a member for a little while, but never
> > actually posted anything....besides a picture. I hope I'm doing this
> > right! Anyway, I'm 28 and I'm frustrated!!!!! I have limited
> > bladder/bowel control and it has come to the point where I'm almost
> > afraid to leave my house! I avoid certain situations because of it,
> > I'm paranoid, nervous and it's really affecting the quality of my
> > life. I can't help but worry about humiliating myself when I'm out,
> > and the nervousness only makes things worse. I've had my "accidents"
> > in the past but thus far have managed to avoid any extremely
> > humiliating experiences ......but only because I'm so careful! What
> > is complicating things I think is the fact that I have irritable
> > bowel syndrome. Anyone out there dealing with the same kinda
> > problem?? Any suggestions??
> >
> > Jeff
> >
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Hi guys, Joellen here. Just my $0.02 here I use a chuks like a diaper
if I am worried about possible BM while out and/or during my period.
They stay in place better than a pad or Depends when I do my slide board
transfer especially since I wear underpants and my slacks over that.
And they don't seem to be as bulky. Joellen