My name is Mandy, and I will be 33 in July. I have had TM for five
years. I was glad to hear another person my age talking about bowel/bladder
problems. It is hard when you are younger, a diaper in your bathing suit could
be quite awkward ! That is not a joke. It's difficult because we are in the
most social part of our lives, and do not feel accepted by our peers. In fact,
we're not. I have wet myself, had bowel movements, both, in public, I realize
that no one probably saw what just happened to me, but it is humiliating to be
an adult and soil your clothes. I am always sure that someone can tell, just
by the look on my face. I wear at least minimal protection at all times. I do
not leave the house before I have bm in the mornings, if I have to, I wear a
diaper. Which, to me , is humiliating. I realize that no one can see it, but I
know it's there, and I feel different. I have learned that these are the
things that I have to do, in order to take care of Mandy. It has been my
experience that people that genuinely care about me don't get bothered or
offended when I have an accident. They seem to understand how I must be
feeling, and are usually very pleasant. The rest of the world, well, their a
mixed crowd, and thay don't know me, so how could they possibly understand me.
I have quit expecting understanding from the world, there is so much
understanding in my life, I don't have to travel too far to find some. I am
fortunate. I have friends and family that love and appreciate me for who I am,
even if I do have poop in my pants in their car.
The rest of the world doesn't know me, or love me, so they don't understand.
And they are not going to. This is Mandy's to deal with, and I find it easier
to deal with surrounded by my family and friends. I go out, but I go out with
them, because with them, I know that it will not be an issue. WE REALLY DO
HAVE TO PICK OUR FRIENDS VERY CAREFULLY, I HAVE SOME MAKE AN ASS OUT OF ME AND
THEM BY JOKING ABOUT IT IN FRONT OF OTHERS. I prefer mature adult friends now,
and the ones that can't handle it, well, their immaturity was their problem,
and it still is. I HAVE to "move on to the next one". Thanks for bringing up
the subject, I guess I had more to say than I thought, sorry if I rambled. I
have no advice for you, I don't even have an answer, but I do have
understanding, and if that can help, E-ME any time. Be Well, Mandy
"Jeff C" <doubletrouble27(AT)hotmail.com> wrote:
> Hello there! I've been a member for a little while, but never
> actually posted anything....besides a picture. I hope I'm doing this
> right! Anyway, I'm 28 and I'm frustrated!!!!! I have limited
> bladder/bowel control and it has come to the point where I'm almost
> afraid to leave my house! I avoid certain situations because of it,
> I'm paranoid, nervous and it's really affecting the quality of my
> life. I can't help but worry about humiliating myself when I'm out,
> and the nervousness only makes things worse. I've had my "accidents"
> in the past but thus far have managed to avoid any extremely
> humiliating experiences ......but only because I'm so careful! What
> is complicating things I think is the fact that I have irritable
> bowel syndrome. Anyone out there dealing with the same kinda
> problem?? Any suggestions??
>
> Jeff
>
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