Congratulations!! You're well on your way if you are
stopping to think before you say....isn't it strange,
how we don't realize how far we get from one another,
even when we are together, just by not hearing the
other's feelings in what is being said? I'm so happy
that you all have stopped and thought about what
each of you needs--thank goodness you called out
for help!!
You chose a good place to come to see what you were
doing to each other--with tm in our lives, we do not need
to add any more strife to our lives. Mandy, I think that your
added tm problems have a great deal to do with the stress in
your life and I know that it is hard to stop and say hey! I have
to take care of myself or we'll never keep it together but that is
the way we must deal with life now. Looking back at the way
we were doesn't make any sense because we can never expect
to be that way again. Once tm is in your life (patient or caretaker)
I don't think that we can ever go back--we've all reached a plateau
that we would never have seen if tm hadn't effected each of us. It
is this understanding that the members of the tmic group have all
learned that helps us to help one another--and all of us have times
which we need our tmic family to step in and help us over the hump!
We've all been there! That's why you got such good advice and prayers
were sent up for you from this group.
Please remember this, it didn't take a day to get where you were
and it will take time and patience to get where you want to be. Just
keep working together and your marriage will be stronger for this
glitch that made you stop and survey what you were doing and where
you were heading. Our prayers will continue for your continued better
health and stronger marriage.
JanH