Re: [When TM tears the family fabric.]

Peter & Mandy Feka (5yearitch(AT)netscape.net)
29 Mar 99 14:42:56 EST

Thank you sir, he thinks it's infantile too, but hasn't learned how NOT to do
it. And not to worry my friend, I am not self destructing, I had to realize
myself that that was angry words and a poor expression of my feelings. I
didn't intend to scare anyone, I was angry and not thinking, and that's the
immaturity on my part. I am resting a lot because my body isn't liking
anything I do right now, i have resigned myself to calming down, and getting
some of these spasms under control, so that I too can talk without talking
through my teeth or with the look of death on my face. We are both finding a
source of calmness and reasurance in the thoughts and feelings of others. Now
we have the benefit of experiences from people who can tell us how THEY did
it, are doing it, or would do it. I'm feeling hopeful, when I'm not feeling
infuriated at these spasms AND their timing ! NOTE FROM CAMP : send more jokes
soon ! tnks, M

Robert and Marabeth <74541.2151(AT)compuserve.com> wrote:
> Mandy,
> Maybe your husband just needs a break, so he can get his schitte together.
> I didn't like what was said about all the negative things he says to you.
> I consider such behaviour infantile at best.
> Could he perhaps be feeling totally inadequate as he is unable to help you
> heel,
> or am I waaaay off the mark......???
>
> Let him go if he insists to do so, so you can put the remaining pieces of
> your life together. If he truly loves you, he'll come back.
> So, if I sound calloused, I'll say no. Cutting one's losses is more like
> it.
> Or rather, diverting one's energies to save the salvageable.
> And mend the mendable.
> And lissen here, Mandy, no talk about self-destruction, y'hear...???
> Save that energy for meaningfull purposes. We've all seen too many suicide
> attempts (including our families here) and even some successful ones (ugh).
>
> You can always reach me for copies of the TM list, as I've saved them all,
> if and when you unsubscribe. (But them, there's the web page,
> right...???).
>
> I am, as well as all the others on this list, rootin' fer ya, and hoping
> that common sense will prevail, and y'all can get on with your lives.
>
> Robert in Memphis

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