> I have found
> it very difficult to discipline her, especially when it involves minor
> offenses (not doing chores, messy bedroom, etc). I feel like there is
> enough
> unpleasantness (for lack of a better word) in her life, that I don't want
to
> add to it. I tend to let her go with her friends when the opportunity
> arises,even if her room is a mess or chores aren't done because I want to
> let
> her have some happiness while she can. She tends to have a different set
of
> rules than her brother.
Dear Stacy:
I do not know about children, but my family would not let me use the excuse
that I am paralyzed to get sympathy or be lazy asking for help when I could do
it myself.
I was born without my left arm and my parents would assign the same about of
chores and work around the place as my older brother, giving me no slack at
all. We lived in a rural area and everyone had their own chores to do.
Now, my lovely wife and daughter do the same thing to me with TM. I thank her
for it, because I would probably have rotted away in my wheelchair, eating bon
bons and watching TV.
It does sound a little like your daughter is acting like a normal teenager,
though. My 16 year old does the same thing, if she thinks she can get away
with it.
I suggest you analyze the situation as it occurs and act accordingly as you
would do normally.
Bob from Houston