It is my opinon that what Alton said is correct. I
think you would be doing her an injustice to allow
her to do whatever she wants (notice fatigue doesn't
bother when friends want to go). For one thing,
I think that in time she would feel her lack of res-
ponsibility and that would be a downer. Secondly,
I think in time her brother might come to resent the
fact that she had no responsibilities and he had to
do it all. He might not say so! but I think after time
it would begin to affect their relationship. I also agree
that you can't look at her lifespan in any other way
than to be thankful for all the time you have together.
Let her be a part of the family as you work together
through life, you'll have more time for fun if each of
you is doing his part!!
My thoughts are with you!..JanH