I agree with what Kris has said about anger and being guided but not governed by it. I also agree that we need to take charge of our own situations and not rely on others - even our spouses. But I'd caution not to attribute too many negatives to the way our significant others react to our illness. My husband is a wonderful man, a wonderful father, and my best friend. BUT, I sometimes find his listening skills deficient and there have been times when I've felt angry and lonesome. Does that mean he
doesn't care? NO! It means that he doesn't necessarily know how to cope with it either. I have to remind myself that if I can't make a trained medical professional understand what I feel and how I feel it, then why should I expect my husband to. Yep, he forgets about the TM at times to my annoyance. But, he went to the neuro with me to do nothing more than give support. And he's gotten really good at noticing if my back hurts after a long day - - he keeps the Aspercreme lotion at the ready by his
chair!
These are just my thoughts. Personally, I'd kick the doctor but ask Jenny's husband what Jenny having TM means to him. I bet there's a bit of anger and fear in him too.
Take care Jenny and good luck.
Jane D.
>>> <Rizahdough(AT)aol.com> 03/04 12:44 PM >>>
Hi Jenny,
In my opinion, your anger is your "red flag". Let it guide you, but don't
let it govern you. Get some concret information about the test and what is
used for. Try to get as much information on what the SEG test does and does
not reveal. Then determine is you need it.
Also.......I think you should stop asking your hubby for his opinion. It
seems his answers are not in your favor and only seem to undermine your self-
esteem and hurt.........or maybe a better word to use is.........disappoint
you. Which you don't need at this time. Since he hasn't shown much care or
concern for what you have had to deal with in the past, I think you should
take control of your situation and do what you think and/or know what is best
for you now. You sound like an intelligent and competent lady, I have trust
in your ability to take charge of your medical situation.
Smiles to you,
Kris~