In my humble opinion, we must do what we can to better enable ourselves to
move forward in life. Since it is "our" life, how can we depend on others to
go in "our" direction? We can ask for advice when we are stuck, or in a rut.
But in the end, it is up to us. To either sit back and do nothing, complain
about what is going on or be active in what we want for ourselves. "I" am my
best advocate.....and....."I" can be my worst enemy too. Here are a couple
sayings I try to think about when I am down.
1. "Failure is not falling down-
it is staying down"
2. "If you can't excel with talent-
excel with effort"
Another thing Renae, most men are not on the same wavelength as we are. When
we talk, "most" times we just want someone to listen...and....not necessarily
give us answers to solve what is bothering us. With "most" men......they feel
like they are suppose to solve the problem right then and when they
can't........they step back.
(disassociate themselves) It is the continual process of the "stepping back",
that concerns me. Because they are going in the opposite direction from us
and will soon be so far away, it is hard to mend the gap. (this goes both
ways too)
Try telling your husband that you just want him to listen to you..... that's
all you need. He will soon feel more comfortable. As for support, I suggest
you tell your female friends that you may need to lean on their shoulder,
every now and then. Plus you have us....right? You are on the right track.
Take care.
Smiles,
Kris~