I got to thinking after what I wrote last night that I hoped it didn't sound
like I was against forgiving your brother. It's just that so many times in my
husband's family and mine, we have seen some family members doing the same
things over and over and over, and people get frustrated but keep bailing them
out or sweeping it under the rug, etc., and it never changes, only gets worse,
til the ones involved have to deal with the consequences.
I know what you mean about confrontation -- one of my weakest spots!! At least
in person. If I could write instead of face people, I'd be much bolder!
I'd keep after the credit folks -- I'm sure they can't hold you to this. Don't
pay on any of it til you can get with the company again. You know, strange
thing, but we got a credit card bill today where someone evidently had cashed
one of those checks they send you in your credit card statement -- for
$1,000!!! My husband called and said we had not used any of those (he said he
would really rather they didn't send them at all, but they said they can't not
send them -- they just put them in all the statements). We're not quite sure
where someone would've gotten one of those from our account, but the co. is
supposed to be looking for a copy of the check.
I'm glad you posted this situation to the list, Carrie, both so your friends
here could be here for you and help in any way we can, but also because
different ones have expressed problems and frustrations with being dependent
on others, and this is one of those areas we have to be especially on guard
in. Let us know how it goes!!
Barbara H.