Re: TAKING A LOAD OFF
Jo Ellen Finkelstein (ghellen(AT)ninenet.com)
Mon, 25 Jan 1999 22:24:57 -0600
ALICE ROGERS wrote:
>
> Hi Maria,
> At times we all need to 'take a load off' as you said. I guess that's
> what I've been doing with all of you for the past week.
> I agree that we can over-think a problem. At some point, no matter
> what the problem is, we have to reach a point of acceptance. There are
> always going to be things in our lives that we can't change and all we
> can do is learn to live with them. I don't expect that I will ever
> come up with answers to all my questions. For that matter, none of you
> will be able to answer them for me either. But, collectively, we can
> continue coming up with questions. At some point in time, maybe after
> all of us are gone, someone, somewhere, will find the answers.
> I don't think (from what I've seen so far) that my daughter's TM is
> inherited. I DO think there is some problem inherent in the genes of
> my family that for some unknown reason presents itself as back/spinal
> conditions.
> Mandy and I were discussing all this on the phone last night and she
> said to me: "Mom, sometimes I just need to get out of my own head. I've
> found that the scariest place in the world is between my own ears!!"
> I guess this is her way of not 'over-thinking'.
> Maria, I feel totally incompetent when faced with the kind of pain I've
> seen in my family members and read of on this list. My nature is to
> do SOMETHING and it is very difficult to have to accept that there is
> nothing for me to do. I truly believe that in any type or research
> we have to continue asking questions, particularly in the absence of
> answers. If we ever stop questioning progress will come to a stand-
> still.
> My only contact with TM has been as an observer and that has given me
> the utmost respect for those of you who are living with it daily.
> Very best wishes to all
> Alice (who believes life is what happens to you while you are making
> other plans)Hi Alice,Joellen here. Alice what a pretty name (also my mom's name!)
I was very depressed the other night so I called my nephew (more like a
brother since he's only 4 years younger) I guess I wanted him to pat me
on the head and say poor baby. He didn't. He has AIDS and pointed out
to me that there are alot of things that I can still do like volunteer
work, he set up an organization in DC called something like 10 for 1?
He hasn't let the fact that he has a shorter life expectancy stop him.
I guess things could be alot worse for me and I need to do something to
make me feel I am accomplishing something. Maybe to also take my mind
off the rest of my life!LOL Joellen