TAKING A LOAD OFF
ALICE ROGERS (tarprent(AT)gte.net)
Fri, 22 Jan 1999 07:46:00 -0500
Hi Maria,
At times we all need to 'take a load off' as you said. I guess that's
what I've been doing with all of you for the past week.
I agree that we can over-think a problem. At some point, no matter
what the problem is, we have to reach a point of acceptance. There are
always going to be things in our lives that we can't change and all we
can do is learn to live with them. I don't expect that I will ever
come up with answers to all my questions. For that matter, none of you
will be able to answer them for me either. But, collectively, we can
continue coming up with questions. At some point in time, maybe after
all of us are gone, someone, somewhere, will find the answers.
I don't think (from what I've seen so far) that my daughter's TM is
inherited. I DO think there is some problem inherent in the genes of
my family that for some unknown reason presents itself as back/spinal
conditions.
Mandy and I were discussing all this on the phone last night and she
said to me: "Mom, sometimes I just need to get out of my own head. I've
found that the scariest place in the world is between my own ears!!"
I guess this is her way of not 'over-thinking'.
Maria, I feel totally incompetent when faced with the kind of pain I've
seen in my family members and read of on this list. My nature is to
do SOMETHING and it is very difficult to have to accept that there is
nothing for me to do. I truly believe that in any type or research
we have to continue asking questions, particularly in the absence of
answers. If we ever stop questioning progress will come to a stand-
still.
My only contact with TM has been as an observer and that has given me
the utmost respect for those of you who are living with it daily.
Very best wishes to all
Alice (who believes life is what happens to you while you are making
other plans)