RE: Husband with TM

Lindstrom, Ann (annlindstrom(AT)lucent.com)
Sat, 2 Jan 1999 13:02:52 -0800

Wendy - So sorry that you and your husband have been affected by this
disease. It is very possible that he is depressed. If he has lost alot of
mobility, he may well be mourning what he has lost. If this is depression,
being told to have a more positive attitude will not help. Let his docs
know what is going on.

I often have stated that I think a disease like TM may be harder on a loving
spouse than on the patient. You want to help, and it is out of your hands.
My hubby is my rock, but I know this has not been easy. I went on
anti-depressants when I realized I could find know reason to go on, not even
for the people who love me and who I love. Getting the depression under
control helped both of us alot.

Give your hubby a little time - I was in the hospital almost a month, and it
was weird when I got out. It was hard and more than a bit frightening being
back in the real world. I imagine that it is even more intense after being
in the hospital for six months.

Hope some of this helped. Keep us informed. We do care. Ann

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> Wendy, JanH here. Take every word that Alton
> said to heart!! He has been there and he is con-
> quering this fight by doing just that, fighting! Your
> hubby can't improve his plight if he doesn't work,
> work, and work some more. Please know that we
> are all pulling for both of you! We celebrate every
> new ability we regain and want to know how things
> are going. Glad you found this group--support is
> important and you will get plenty of that here.
>
> Alton has been an inspiration as he has fought for
> every thing he has regained.
>