<< Hi Maureen,Larry & Everyone, I think most people have a hard
time accepting help;you're so used to functioning by yourself.The
hardest thing for me is not being able to drive;I must depend on others
for rides.I live about 2 miles from the nearest grocery store,& 16 miles
from the doctors I must see because of my insurance.I worked as a nurse
for 22 yrs.& met many wonderful people who come 16 miles to take me to
dr appts,bring me back home,& several also take me out to lunch!I'm
stuck in the house most of the time.However,I love to read.My sister &
daughter take me to the library & I get 10 or more books every 2 weeks.I
have fraternal twins who are 36,a daughter who is 30,(she lives with
me)and they have been wonderful from the start.Any time I've needed a
ride,someone has been there for me.I am truly blessed.Just try not to be
too proud to ask for help. Cheryl M.
Cheryl,
Hello. Boy can I relate to the hardest thing for you to do is not being able
to drive. I have not been able to for 3+ years now due to my seizures. It
literally put me in a state of depression, BUT I did not know it until I was
already in it. I am fiercly independant and always have been. so not being
able to drive, being a single mother to 3 children was extremely hard for me.
It took me a little over a year to accept that. In that time I could count on1
hand the amount of times I asked for a ride, and those time were extremely
long distances where I could not take a bus.
Now it is a very different story. I have a very dear friend who kicked my
butt, so to speak. I have come to realize many things.
1) I need help, therefore I need to ask
2) I never had a problem helping others, therefore what comes around goes
around]
3) People feel good about themselves when they can help, I should allow them
that.
4) I was angry because I expected people to know when I needed help and would
hold grudges, I brought this on myself. All because I would not come right out
and ask. Had to let this go and ask for the help.
5) I simply had to accept the situation as it was. This in turn helped me out
of my denial AND helped me deal with my illness.
6) Because I was no longer able to do it ALL, my children participated more in
and around the house, in my health, and amongst each other! Big one here
folks!
I am sure there is much more that transpired, but way to many to list and I
have done enough rambling for one day, ROFL!
Love to all!
Maria in Tonawanda where the rain has finally stopped!