RE: Re: sexual problems

Lindstrom, Ann (annlindstrom(AT)exchange.sv.lucent.com)
Tue, 11 Aug 1998 08:28:42 -0700

Wow - I was wondering when this problem would appear. You guys are not
the only ones who have lost sexual function. After TM, sex is very
uncomfortable for me, and that part of my relationship with my husband
has been missing ever since. Just one of the major bummers no one ever
talks about. I thought when I was first recovering that I would
probably resent dancers and skaters, since my mobility was so limited.
However, I find that I still love to watch good dancing and skating,
that it takes me out of myself and I am flying with the athletes.
Watching sexy scenes on movies and tv is a lot harder - I miss that
passion in my life.....Ann ( who just exposed way to much about herself)

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> From: Geetha Mohan[SMTP:moamma(AT)pol.net]
> Sent: Monday, August 10, 1998 8:00 PM
> To: J.W.Deenik
> Cc: tmic-list(AT)eskimo.com
> Subject: Re: Re: sexual problems
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> Originally From: "J.W.Deenik" <jwdeenik(AT)westbrabant.net>
> Subject: Re: sexual problems
> Date: 08/10/1998 01:05pm
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> Dear Wim:and Hello everyone
> Thank you for the response. Though it is a delicate topic I have
> decided to seek help from this group. I am 40 year old male who had TM
> at the age of 31. At that time did not have this friendly and
> supportive group as Internet was at its infancy. My TM was at the T3 /
> T4 level. Onset was within 12 hours. 2 weeks of steroids and intensive
> care followed by recuperation at home and PT. Most of my functions are
> back except for some tingling sensation, urine residual (150cc,
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> resulting in UTI) and sexual functional problems. Some intermittent
> tiredness. Here is my main problem:
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> Before TM I had no problem getting an errection and was able to
> ejaculate without any difficulty. Since TM getting and maintaining
> errection has been a problem. Viagra is helping but not with the
> ejaculation. We are trying to have a child. In 20 months through IUI
> and one IVF my wife was pregnant twice, but we lost the baby both
> times. Time is also running out as she is 37.5 years old. She went
> through all tests and does not have any problems. For me they found
> that my motility is low 7 to 9% but after preparation goes to 35%. One
> big difference I have noticed was my ejaculate used to be more viscous
> and white before TM and now it is very fliud. Even the quantity now is
> lot less. Timing IUI has been difficult. We are using OVUQUICK
> elaborate test kit, basal temperature etc. Even attempted IUI twice in
> the last two cycles.
> I would appreciate if people could share the problems and
> successes in this area. I know it is not unique to me. Please provide
> as much details as possible eg. age, motility #'s if known.
> For the past two months I have started taking 1 CIPRO (250 mg.)a
> day for the UTI, hoping this will help in the sperm motility.
> Difficult to get information from the medical community because most
> of them seem to be learning along with us. I agree that we need to
> seek help for the group from physicians who have dealt with more cases
> of TM patients.
> Thanks in advance.
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> Originally From: "J.W.Deenik" <jwdeenik(AT)westbrabant.net>
> Subject: sexual problems
> Date: 08/05/1998 05:03pm
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> Geetha
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> You wrote:
> My main question is the sexual function. Since you mentioned it in
> your letter I want to know more about it. Thats why I am sending this
> mail only to you.
> I also lost my sexual functions. Before I was able to ejaculate
> without any difficulty. Now when I do it with great difficulty by
> masturbation the semen looks different. Retaining erection is a
> problem . With Viagra I can get an erection, but ejaculate is not the
> same. What are your experiences in this area before and after TM? What
> are your doctors views? Please write to me in detail about this
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> Our cases are different, on this we are the same. To answer your
> questions: Before the process started, I had no problems with sex at
> all. Because I was sterilized (dont know the word for it) the semen
> was already different as it was before. Now I sometimes can
> masturbate, and the semen looks like the flue what keeps the semen
> together, much different as before. Retaining an erection is for me
> also not possible. In the morning when the bladder is full it
> sometimes looks like it, but after emptying it , its gone. I dont
> have any experience with Viagra, the medicine is just given free in
> Holland. We heard a lot about it. I have seen Ophras program about it.
> I didnt talk about it with a doctor, my process is still going on. I
> understood from your mail, you had a very quick process, virus
> perhaps, within two years most of such kind of patients do have a 90%
> recovery. To reach the end of my process, it can take a year or maybe
> more. My doctor expects after that time , maybe some!
> recovery, but nerves are to long shutdown to recover at all.
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> The sexual problem we have, we are not the only one. What to think
> about our wives. Some I read lost there relationship after the TM. No
> reason was given, but I have a very good idea about that. Thats why
> its good to go on the net with this subject. Maybe wives of TM,s will
> react. I cant believe we are the only two with this problem. Jim
> Lubin who I wrote about it, does not have any problem to talk about
> this subject on the net. I didnt knew how Americans will react, in
> Holland we talk about it maybe more freely.
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> Your English is much better as mine, maybe you are an American
> yourself. I think it its the best, you write a piece about sex on the
> net. Use my letter ( please without all the language mistakes) and my
> first letter, you may use my name, I dont mind. You can also send it
> to me personnel, so that I send it to the group, with my name under
> it. Maybe it helps other people, that they know, they are not alone.
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